My husband died of sudden myocardial infarction and his wife died on the spot! Can heartache be cured? Psychologist: "One method" helps you get out of pain

When you read these stories, you may soon feel that these are tragic experiences, stories about separation and death. These stories are similar to the emotions you have been familiar with and endured, or the feelings you have ever experienced. Maybe it is because you have lost a very close family or friend and suffered unprecedented breakage and breakage in your life; you may have walked a long and tormented road, or you are about to start this unknown journey. Su Zhihui counselors teach you how to tell your own tragic story, which will cure your heartbreak and heartache.

The sad story of life and death

‧Ruying's 35-year-old husband suddenly fell to the ground and died

The young woman Ruying mentioned that shocking process, and her face was difficult to hide her tightness and sorrow. She couldn't suppress it, and her body was still trembling like the panic when she passed away when she was old. One side cried and said, "Mr. and I have been married for four years, and the child is just three years old. Our life is still quite good. Mr. has a stable income and his salary makes the whole family feel comfortable. The only price is that Mr. is very busy, and he always has endless meetings and endless business plans. He works overtime almost every day and night. Although I can't bear it, we said we should let Mr. work hard first. In the industry, the teacher is being reused and can be more expressive at work. This is something that almost every man in the youth will work hard. We all want to make our family more comfortable and hope to give our children a more secure life.

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But I didn't expect that one morning, my husband suddenly folded his chest, his expression was very painful, and after a sound of choking breath, he fell down immediately I couldn't get up, lost my mind, and couldn't wake up no matter how I called. I was scared and called "119" in a hurry. I forgot how I spent the waiting time. I was anxious and panicked. I kept visiting outside the Taiwan area to see if the rescue car had arrived. When the rescue personnel came, I told me that the gentleman was already angry and must be handed over to the police and the prosecutor. At the same time, our home turned into a scene of death , and my husband's body must be brought back by the tester to determine the cause of death.

My husband is so young and under thirty-five years old, how could he die suddenly? I could not believe it. At that time, I could not understand what tragedy was, nor could I know what weakness was. I followed the police's instructions to answer their questions and make a record. I had no idea how to react. I do whatever message comes in and I do whatever I want me to do.

I have an untrue feeling, thinking that all this is someone else's business, not my business, I feel like I am handling other people's affairs, and I can't feel sad and sad like arguing about my own experience. I even think this may be a dream. I really hope that Zhao will wake up from the dream and let myself know that everything is fake. "

‧Mr. Jingyun's husband passed away with myocardial infarction

Another young woman, Jingyun's husband also died of sudden myocardial infarction. She said with a sad face: "Although my husband has the opportunity to be sent to the emergency clinic of the hospital for rescue, after all the first aid measures were implemented, his life was still not saved. The doctor told me that he had actually died before he arrived at the hospital. Even if he was rescued, he was likely to be a brain-death disease. My child has not yet been in elementary school, but my husband lets us go like this? I am a medical employee. During the first aid of my husband, I tried to find the best medical treatment for him. I have many medical resources to use, but in the end, these medical resources have not changed any situation. I faced Mr.'s surrender in the environment I am most familiar with. "

‧Chang Yi's wife died on the scene

Chang Yi's wife was hit by two collision cars on horse road and died on horseback. Because his wife did not have any certificates to show her identity, until late at night, Chang Yi did not receive any calls to inform his wife that she had suffered misfortune. It was not until Chang Yi felt unfavorable that he went to the police station with his son to report his wife's misunderstanding. It was not until then that he learned that his wife had died in the morning.

Without experience, there is no message to know what happened to his wife. Suddenly being told that his wife died, it feels like a joke. If it weren't for seeing the body's rupture and black due to heavy blows, no one would believe how a person might disappear. However, even after reading the body and holding a funeral, Chang Yi still couldn't emotionally believe that his wife no longer existed in life. He did not want to mention this matter at all, nor did he feel any sadness. He tried hard to keep everything in life as it was. The more he resisted the fact that life had changed, the harder he could adjust the shape of life and responded to new life challenges. As a result, the more powerlessness and setbacks he had, he would eventually lose his mind and collapse.

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Can't speak of the loss - Cat's chance passed away

Let me first talk about my experience, I am a cat lover, and I have raised five cats at the same time. Every day I live with these cats, and most of the time, they do their own things, sleeping, catching the cuckoo, eating, or looking out the window with curious and sorrow. I am also accustomed to this way of doing things, and it doesn't seem to be too concerned about them, they are still doing well.

When I leave the door every morning and close the door, I never thought about whether I might have lost a certain person when I return home; before going to bed every night, I never thought about whether I would never see or hold a certain person when I wake up the next day.

They are there, each living their own lives, occasionally coming to talk about my love and touch. She cried, deeply feeling her helplessness and vulnerability. She aroused that she could not successfully protect her children. She didn't understand why she just couldn't give birth to healthy children for her family like many women?

After the child was sure that he did not exist, Lili's life seemed to be back to the original step, and it seemed that nothing had changed. No one mentioned the child again, no one asked her about pregnancy. This thing is like an eternal secret, which only affects her heart, and only she knows it clearly.

She almost believed what a friend next to her said: "All the pain is something you think of yourself. Don't think about it. If you forget this, you will have a new life."

No one has experienced the piercing and pain of Xiaoli during the surgery. No one knows how reluctant she is to her child. No one understands that for her, the child has truly lived in her life, breathing with her, and living with her. Maybe to others, they can't see the existence of this child at all, but for her, the existence of the child is nothing.

In the tragic concern and companionship, the stories start with the tragic stories

The stories seem to be scary, shocking, and tolerant, but they also hide moving and profound emotions. But because of the sadness and pain, in real life, many people cannot listen or stay and pay attention. Therefore, they have to be forced to silence the sound when encountering them, and can only be deeply locked in their hearts and buried deeply.

Over time, the memory of life that had lived together, with the winding of time, the sound of the sound disappeared. And a certain part of himself seemed to be buried with his family. When everything has disappeared, what is left of life? Then the once familiar love no longer exists, and the once familiar self. What else can life say?

When life is silent for a long time and is speechless, it does not mean that everything is meaningless or unimportant. Sometimes, it is because it is too painful and too injured, which makes people unable to bear to look straightforward; sometimes, it is because it is too heavy and too difficult, which makes people wonder where to start. But only when we are willing to say, and when we are willing to turn the tragedy into a story, can everything begin to be endured.

If, you have never known how to express your sorrow. If, those sorrowful experiences are like heavy stones pressing on your heart, you will definitely be able to deeply understand how true your sorrow is. It is not a illusion, it is not a fabrication, it is a story that has happened in your life.

【Operation】Please practice telling your tragic story

Try to start your tragic story and try to write your tragic story. If you feel it's difficult to move, you can choose the way to record the sound, such as having an object sitting in front of you, and I'm very dedicated to listening to your tragic journey and experience.

This object will not interrupt your statement, nor will it think what you should say. You only need to truly reflect on what happened to yourself.

Perhaps, this person would invite you like this:

I would love to hear what happened to you? What was that process? What did you experience during that time? Please tell me slowly and start with the part you want to say. Perhaps, you can try to open your head with such sentences: On the day when the incident happened, I can invite someone who is willing to listen to and accompany you and tell your tragic story in full. Let your sad experience be seen, heard, and recognized by you through the process of carefully speaking.

This article records: Baoping Culture "So, I can say it again: Map of the Spirit of Sorrow"