Without confidence, it is caused by the "self-dialogue" that automatically appears in the brain! American PhD in Psychology teaches you 4 tricks to change

"This is useless", "I have no choice," "Why can't I do it well"...... Are this kind of sounds often appear in your brain?

These always appear automatically and are repeatedly repeated inward sounds, which are called "self-talks" by psychology. These sounds are often negative and are consuming your self-confidence, making your behavior more depleted and your potential more limited.

"Self-dialogue" is usually obtained from childhood. They may be internalized from the criticism of their parents and the disapproval of others, but the good news is that self-dialogue can be changed by the day after tomorrow. If you compare your brain to a computer, changing your own dialogue is like changing a programming language, allowing your brain to function in a new and healthy way. James Creighton, PhD in American psychology, suggests the following four steps to change negative self-dialogue.

1. Observe negative self-dialogue

Negative self-dialogue often appears very naturally, so naturally that you take it for granted. Don’t doubt whether this sentence is correct or not. Therefore, to change the negative self-dialogue, the first step is to observe it. If your observing ability is not that good, write it in a notebook when the negative conversation appears. Over time, you will become more sensitive to its appearance.

2. Observe others' influences by negative self-dialogue

The situation is fascinated by the situation and the audience is clear. If you have difficulty detecting the impact of negative self-dialogue on yourself, then please pay attention to the people around you who always speak or are too harsh to observe the negative impact of these languages on them, such as limiting their innovation, causing them to always fall into a low point, or making their careers unsatisfactory, which may be a good warning for yourself.

3. The prerequisite for preventing negative self-dialogue from automatically appearing

to change negative self-dialogue is to not make a rash conclusion about any negative situation. For example, when you hear others express your opinions on your work, don’t look at it critically immediately. First understand what they want to express. Keeping "elasticity" is the first step to changing negative self-talk.

Come again, when the negative face conversation automatically appears, you can tell yourself to "stop" in your brain, or pat your body. Some people will wear rubber bands on their hands, pull up and pop when the negative face conversation occurs. This is how to change the brain's nerve path and stop negative face conversations.

4. Update language

While preventing negative language from appearing, you must also update positive language to your brain. You can try in multiple ways to find a language that best supports you. It does not have to be super hot and energetic, such as "I can't decide what happens, but I can choose how to face it", "I'm not alone", etc. These gentle and soft languages are very sufficient.

Although the work of changing negative self-talk is not easy and cannot be achieved overnight, it is absolutely worth it to modify your life story so that your work and love can develop in a positive direction.