Three most common types of husbands who are most likely to be injured by wives: boss type, indifferent type, leisure type, how should we get along with each other?

Editorial Note: When talking to your husband, the other party always ignores the relationship, or goes out of the left ear, or even cannot communicate at all? Japanese women's magazines divide these "problem husbands" into three categories: "boss type", "indifferent type", and "relaxed type", to find out the key points of the other party's personality and concern, as well as speaking skills for how to communicate, or perhaps it is the time to reorganize each other's relationship and start the conversation.

The concept of "100 years of life" has been very popular recently. Considering this, the time it takes to be with the partner in the second half of his life may last 40 to 50 years. If you want to have a happy life for two people, how can you communicate effectively so that you won’t always be angry? According to a reader survey of

According to a reader survey of the Japanese mature women's magazine "élat", 64% of women born after 50 were once angry about their conversation with their husbands. The highest proportion is because "the other party does not listen to their words" (36%), followed by "the words they really want to say cannot be said" (18%) and "no negative answers will be received no matter what they say" (14%).

Some people also complained that the gentleman "no matter how many times he talked about the same thing, he reacted like he had heard it for the first time", "he could only talk about Lao Wang and sell melons", and "he showed impatience after talking for no few words." Especially after the child becomes an independent adult, the two people don’t know what to say.

What should I do if I can’t communicate well? Let’s first look at the type of husband

After analysis, these husbands who are prone to make people feel infatuated can be roughly divided into three types:

1. Take control of the command throughout your life: boss type

Even at home, they treat their wives like the boss’s management department. The mouth says, "Don't you know this?" "This is common sense!" "This society is not as simple as you think." You often pick your wife's faults or dislike them.

The "boss-type" gentlemen usually like to talk about reason and think they know a lot. Therefore, it is better to use specific facts or data to argue with them.

2. Care more about your own world than family: Indifferent type

Most of your mind is devoted to your preferences or concerns. Even if you want to talk about the real topic, you will usually only get perfunctory reply "Oh, all is OK". Most of the things at home are handled by your wife. This attitude of not being concerned about one's own attitude sometimes makes people feel hurt.

Despite this, the indifferent gentleman is unexpectedly individualized and cannot accept different ideas from himself for definite things. Therefore, it is not advisable to force his own ideas to the other party, but to mention questions that are different from usual.

3. Love dreams, full of confidence without any basis: leisurely type

has no sense of responsibility for the family, and only pays attention to the things that you think are fun and interesting. He often said the long-term dream of "I want to start my own business" and "I want to buy a villa and take a family vacation". When he asked him what plans he had, he would only answer "I will have a way out when the time comes", full of confidence coming from nowhere.

Although it has the advantages of personalized and beautiful, it also has soft or small sides. Trying to arouse the other party's interest or make the other party's suitability feel tight, can make the other party feel sincere about the conversation.

What type of husband is? Only by treating the right medicine can you effectively communicate? I hope that the husband can help me do housework, if you say "the boss-type" husband in a pure manner, "I'll do some housework!" I'm afraid the effect will be limited. Explain your situation: Recently, the company has been planning or has to take classes, so it is busy. Can you share some family affairs? He also gave a fixed division of family responsibilities, good at planning, and a relatively responsible boss-type husband, who may be able to develop the talent for doing housework.

The "indifferent" husband may not see even if he sees his wife working hard to do family affairs. At this time, he was allowed to participate in small matters, such as asking him to dry after washing the dishes, asking him to pour it out after sorting out the garbage, etc., and slowly let him contact and engage in housework by sharing his work together. Even if you don't do it well, don't criticize it.

The "leisure" husband may first study the new home appliance or which kind of laundry serum to buy before starting the family business. At this time, you might as well close your eyes so that he can feel fun in doing the family business. Don't forget to praise him after the other party completes it. This may become their source of motivation.

State 2: Discussing with the husband what he wants to do (deputy, learning or interest, etc.)

The review plan is completely the boss of the boss-type husband. Therefore, you might as well use a little text to explain how you plan to do it and how to redistribute your family’s work. Can you bring income to your family? After so on, let the other party refer to the specific content, and then say, "I want to hear your opinions", so that the other party feels that they are being trusted, and they will be more interested in helping their wife.

On the contrary, if he tells his indifferent husband one by one from the beginning of everything, he will feel insulted. It is almost time to prepare for completion, and use a relaxed language to tell the other party what they want to do next, and achieve "information duties".

If the husband is a leisurely type, the skills to gain support are to make the other party feel that "this thing will be interesting", or to talk about the increase in income, the family can also become more affordable and other specific benefits. But don't forget to ask the other party to help you when you are busy.

When facing a foul husband and respect him like ice, you might as well change your ideas and master the communication skills that hit the nail on the head. In the second half of your life, you may also be in pain with your partner!

Original text: 3 most common husbands, wives are most easily insulted: boss type, indifferent type, leisure type, how should we get along with each other?