"An Ang Lee s wife" didn t inform Ang Lee even if she gave birth! Lin Huijia s philosophy of life: I don t tell others that I hope, I only have expectations for myself

The important pusher behind Ang Lee: Before becoming an internationally renowned director, Ang Lee had been unemployed for six years. All the expenses of his life during this period were borne by his wife, Ag Lee, and he was also called "the important pusher behind Ang Lee." Women are responsible for all the expenses in the family. This kind of lifestyle may rarely be seen in Taiwan. It is because of the support of such a regretless wife behind her back that Ang Lee was able to step onto the international stage and become the light of Taiwan.

When ordinary people say this support is hard to imagine, Lin Huijia said quietly when accepting media interviews: "I don't support him, I just don't care about him." No matter what kind of relationships he faces, Lin Huijia believes that everyone is an independent body. "Unless they are childhood sweethearts, most people have already established themselves when they know their partner. What can they change?" Therefore, she respects Ang Lee's dream of becoming a director at that time.

{9 At that time, Ang Lee and Lin Huijia were separated for a long time after their marriage. Ang Lee was busy completing his studies in New York, and Lin Huijia read in Illinois. One night, Lin Huijia felt that the amniotic fluid had broken, and she drove her almost exhausted car to a nearby hospital to prepare for delivery. The doctor asked her if she wanted to contact her husband, and she replied, "No need." The doctor asked if she wanted to contact a friend, but she still answered, "No need."

The disappointments that often arise in life actually come from the "expectations" for others

from raising their families, giving birth to raising their children. The heavy burden at home seems to have fallen on Lin Huijia. No matter which couple is supporting the whole family by their own efforts, they should be overwhelmed, and they are even more likely to have an unbalanced attitude in their hearts. However, for the independent Lin Huijia, she did not have such thoughts, "I won't tell others, I hope you will be like this, I Only have expectations for yourself. ”

The disappointments that we often experience in life actually come from our "expectations" for others. We often believe that many things are the responsibility of others and are "should" be done. We do not consider the situation or ideas of the other party. The gap in expectations makes both parties move far away and eventually break up the relationship. Lin Huijia insists on unchanging behavior for her husband or children. When it comes to teaching her, she once said: "I have no way to be a helicopter mother or a tiger mother." Such a complete respect may be the key to maintaining any relationship.

Faced with his wife's efforts for many years without complaints and regrets, Ang Lee never took it for granted him. When he won the Oscar for the second time, he excitedly thanked his wife on stage: My wife is Lin Huijia, we have been married for 30 years, I love you! "It's enough to see Ang Lee's sincere gratitude and love for Lin Huijia's silent support for many years.

When your partner needs help, you should support each other as much as possible

And Li once revealed that he is a person who is "afraid of his wife". "I don't know why he is afraid of his wife. Perhaps his wife often talks about it. If you are really angry, I usually don't speak, and we never quarrel." When he was interviewed by a Chinese program, he was asked by the host: "What is your greatest happiness at this stage?" Ang Lee replied: "My wife can smile at me. I will relax a little, and I will feel very happy. I am a father and a gentleman, but it does not mean that I can naturally get their respect. You still have to pay their respects every day. You have to meet a standard, which is one of the reasons why I will not slackew. "

Many people have taken the other party's efforts lightly after entering marriage, as if they have become husband and wife, so everything they do should be. But Ang Lee and Lin Huijia's marriage gave us the best demonstration. When our partner needs help, we should support each other as much as possible, because life is not always safe, and the meaning of two people being together is the pillar of the other person's life. We must always keep our partner's efforts in mind. Someone willing to give for themselves without any conditions is the most true kind of affection in the world.